Simple techniques for creating self-compassion
We’ve all experienced it. That terrible nagging voice that can fill your mind without warning or provocation. It’s that voice that loves to tell you all about everything you’ve screwed up, what you’ve forgotten to do, about that doughnut you shouldn’t have eaten, you don’t have enough money, the kids don’t listen… Why can’t you just put on your big kid panties and pull yourself together??!
How often do you find yourself in this space, beating yourself up?
Many people find it easier to be compassionate towards other people than towards themselves. You would never go over to your friend’s house and tell them they are a terrible human being because they didn’t have the time or energy to vacuum. So, why do we do it to ourselves?
There are many false beliefs that block people from self-compassion. Some feel that it might be selfish or that you need to just ‘tough it out’. I liken it to the oxygen mask on an airplane. In the case of an emergency you have to put the mask on yourself first. If you don’t take care of yourself first, you can’t help others. Giving yourself the love and compassion you deserve allows you to be fully present for others. Leading expert Kristin Neff, Ph.D. identified three key steps to cultivating greater self-compassion:
Be kind to yourself. If you wouldn’t say it to a friend, don’t say it to yourself! In times of stress, you can place your hands over your heart and really speak to yourself in a loving way. When you acknowledge the hurt and speak to yourself in a soothing tone, you are giving yourself compassion.
Embrace your common humanity. The negative internal voice can really make you feel alone and separate from others. It is important to remember that you are a divine being having a human experience. It is not perfect, but we are all part of this big, beautiful, flawed experience. You are not alone.
Be mindful. By focusing your awareness on the present moment and all that surrounds you without reacting to it, you can allow the negative feelings to pass through or burn away.
Hypnosis can also help you free your mind of negative thoughts, reduce stress and cultivate greater self-compassion. Want to know more? Call 722.488.8546 to schedule a no-obligation chat.
Achieve your goals by tapping into the power of intention
We all know that person, don’t we? That person that everything falls into place for. That person who always seems to get what they want. It looks effortless, and we often put it down to luck. But is there more going on than just luck, and we can all tap into that apparent effortlessness?
The power of intention means that whatever we focus our intention on is what we bring into our lives. Evidence suggests that what we expect is what is most likely to happen. The power of intention has become a pretty hot topic lately. There are some who believe that there is a force of attraction in nature; that like attracts like; perhaps most famously written about in The Secret. For example if you think negative thoughts, negative things will happen, or if you only focus on the positive, only the good will follow.
I have a slightly different perspective. I think of it in terms of the conscious and subconscious mind. If your goal is only rooted in your conscious mind, that means you will only be working on it when you think about your goal.
If your goal is rooted in your subconscious, however, that means you will always be working towards that goal, because your subconscious is always active.
There are three ways in which you can visualize your goals, and then by seeing them or thinking about them on a daily basis, fix them in your subconscious:
- Vision Board – a collage of images directly related to your goals. It is best to keep your vision board in a place where you can look at it regularly.
- Visualization – create a vivid mental picture of what it will look like when you achieve your goals. The subconscious doesn’t know fact from fantasy so be as creative and imaginative as you can; really see yourself in your new reality.
- SMART goals – a way of defining our goals so that they are Specific, Meaningful, Achievable, Realistic and Time-based. Having clear goals that are specific and measurable is a perfect way to set intentions.
Through hypnotherapy, we can clarify goals, and use a wide variety of techniques to create the subconscious programming needed to keep those goals in mind 24/7. Contact Michelle at 727.488.8546 to learn more today.
What is the first thing you think of when someone says hypnosis? Chances are for some people, their only idea of hypnosis is a Vegas style show where people are clucking like chickens or forget their name. Others might know hypnotherapy is amazing; that it has helped friends or family to stop smoking, or overcome phobias. Rest assured, as entertaining as it is, stage hypnosis isn’t similar at all to a clinical hypnotherapy setting.
You may wonder who can benefit from hypnotherapy, and can I even be hypnotized?
Each and every one of us goes in and out of altered states multiple times every day. An example is when we are completely focused on just one thing or when we allow our minds to daydream. If you’ve ever found yourself zoning out, it’s a similar state of mind you will achieve in a hypnotherapy session.
Hypnosis is about relaxing the conscious mind off to the side so that the subconscious is free to take on positive suggestions. If you can physically hear my voice and are willing, you can be hypnotized if you want to be. Because the conscious mind remains present, you are aware of everything that is said. You are never under or out of it.
Here are my top 3 reasons why you should try hypnosis:
- Relaxation and Stress Reduction – Most of my clients say that hypnosis is so relaxing they don’t want the session to end. Being able to reduce anxiety and sleep more peacefully are additional benefits.
- Make Peace – Tired of that nagging voice in your head telling you that you aren’t good enough, smart enough, sexy, rich, worthy…? Wouldn’t it be nice to be nice to yourself? Hypnotherapy can help you love and accept yourself and find peace within.
- Future Pacing – In hypnosis you will see yourself accomplishing goals. Whether you are imagining it or actually doing it, the same part of the brain is firing. This technique is used to see events going well; being your best, most confident self. Perfect for overcoming phobias, increasing performance or just being your best you.
Hypnotherapy is not a magical cure, it still takes work and effort, but it is amazing how quickly changes can happen when your subconscious mind is on-board.
Misconceptions in the news
As a professional hypnotherapist reading people’s comments on the school board’s settlement, it is shocking to see just how many misconceptions still surround hypnotherapy.
I’ve read everything from “hypnosis lets in the devil” (um no, hypnosis was approved by the Vatican in the late 1800s) to “hypnosis unleashes traumatic memories” (again false – the hypnotic state does not by default bring repressed memories to the surface).
Worst of all is the idea that hypnotherapy is a medical procedure that somehow alters the brain. Hypnotherapy is NOT a medical procedure and is not intended to take the place of professional medical care. Hypnotherapists require written consent from a doctor before offering hypnosis support for any medical condition.
WHAT IT IS:
Hypnosis is a natural state we all go in and out of multiple times every day. It’s a state of hyper focus that allows us to be in the zone whether we are watching a movie, driving, or just relaxing. A well-trained hypnotherapist facilitates this natural state to help you achieve your best self. They don’t have power over you, can’t put you ‘under’, and certainly can’t force you to do anything against your will. If we had that kind of power, Dan Brown would be writing novels about us!
It is easy to be scared by the sensationalized headlines; there are many in the article below, but it is important to understand what hypnotherapy can and cannot do. Misconceptions about Hypnotherapy happen all the time, and it misleads the general public. If you have you have any questions about the safety or effectiveness of Hypnosis, please feel to contact me.