Creating self-compassion

Simple techniques for creating self-compassion

We’ve aSelf-compassionll experienced it. That terrible nagging voice that can fill your mind without warning or provocation. It’s that voice that loves to tell you all about everything you’ve screwed up, what you’ve forgotten to do, about that doughnut you shouldn’t have eaten, you don’t have enough money, the kids don’t listen… Why can’t you just put on your big kid panties and pull yourself together??!

How often do you find yourself in this space, beating yourself up?

Many people find it easier to be compassionate towards other people than towards themselves. You would never go over to your friend’s house and tell them they are a terrible human being because they didn’t have the time or energy to vacuum. So, why do we do it to ourselves?

There are many false beliefs that block people from self-compassion. Some feel that it might be selfish or that you need to just ‘tough it out’. I liken it to the oxygen mask on an airplane. In the case of an emergency you have to put the mask on yourself first. If you don’t take care of yourself first, you can’t help others. Giving yourself the love and compassion you deserve allows you to be fully present for others. Leading expert Kristin Neff, Ph.D. identified three key steps to cultivating greater self-compassion:

Be kind to yourself. If you wouldn’t say it to a friend, don’t say it to yourself! In times of stress, you can place your hands over your heart and really speak to yourself in a loving way. When you acknowledge the hurt and speak to yourself in a soothing tone, you are giving yourself compassion.

Embrace your common humanity. The negative internal voice can really make you feel alone and separate from others. It is important to remember that you are a divine being having a human experience. It is not perfect, but we are all part of this big, beautiful, flawed experience. You are not alone.

Be mindful. By focusing your awareness on the present moment and all that surrounds you without reacting to it, you can allow the negative feelings to pass through or burn away.

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